How to Let Go of Stress and Anger

How to Let Go of Stress and Anger Stress Management Management Techniques Print How to Let Go of Stress and Anger By Elizabeth Scott, MS twitter Elizabeth Scott, MS, is a wellness coach specializing in stress management and quality of life, and the author of 8 Keys to Stress Management. Learn about our editorial policy Elizabeth Scott, MS Updated on February 16, 2020 How Stress Impacts Your Health Overview Signs of Burnout Stress and Weight Gain Benefits of Exercise Stress Reduction Tips Self-Care Practices Mindful Living Jovo Jovanovic / Stocksy United Sometimes stressful situations can seem to stick with us. Most of us find ourselves ruminating or holding onto negative feelings we have about stressors or conflicts in our lives at one time or another. Unfortunately, this tendency can prolong the stress that we experience and even magnify it. Here are some proven strategies for letting go of rumination, letting go of anger, and holding onto peace. Expressive Writing Some people write an angry letter that they later burn. Others write about their feelings and brainstorm solutions. A few even write books or short stories that express their feelings and combat rumination. Regardless of the form it takes, many people have found journaling and expressive writing helpful in letting go of stress and negative emotions. Research confirms that expressive writing can be helpful for the stressed. Studies have shown that expressive writing can be effective in reducing symptoms of depression among those with a tendency toward brooding and rumination.?? This can be a relatively quick and inexpensive way to work through difficult emotions and let things go. How to Use Journaling as a Stress Management Tool Meditation It seems that everyone from Oprah to Sting is touting the benefits of meditation and mindfulness for stress relief, and for good reason. A key ingredient of meditation is a focus on the present. When you actively focus on the present moment and gently prevent your mind from fixating on past events or future fears, it’s much easier to let go of negative emotions surrounding these things. Research confirms that meditation-based stress management practices reduce stress and rumination.?? These techniques  also enhance one’s tendency toward forgiveness, which brings its own rewards. 5 Meditation Techniques for Relaxation and Relief Change Your Thoughts The basis of cognitive therapy is that the way you think about an event can shape the emotional response that you have in a given situation. For example, if you perceive a situation to be a threat, you will have a different emotional (and therefore physical) response than if you viewed the same situation as a challenge. This assertion has been supported by research that shows how people can stop angry feelings by looking differently at a stressful situation or distracting their thoughts.?? Looking at a situation from a new lens, rather than just dwelling on the negative, can help with anger management and lowering one’s stress response. Once you understand how your thoughts color your experiences, you can use this information to reduce stress with a process known as cognitive restructuring. Cognitive Therapy for Dealing With Stress Change Your Behavior You can also change your feelings by changing your behaviorâ€"taking the fake it ’til you make it approach. You can do this in a few different ways. Perhaps the simplest is to make conscious choices to add some new stress management activities to your life: Get regular exercise, practice meditation a few times a week, or have a hobby that helps you relieve stress. Another effective strategy is to change your behavior when you find yourself dwelling on the negative: Actively get involved in doing something that will take your mind off of what’s stressing you. If you’d like to take a more structured approach, metacognitive behavior therapy has been found to be up to 80% effective in treating ruminative tendencies,??? and is considered the mainstay of treatment; it works relatively quickly, and you may find it to be very effective. Cognitive-behavioral therapy, or CBT, is another effective form of treatment, which combines cognitive therapy and behavioral therapy. This type of intervention alone, or combined with SSRI medication, has been found helpful for depressed patients who tend to ruminate.?? The 7 Best Online Anger Management Classes